Marriage, Sex, and Children

The three most important considerations in life, other than God, are Marriage, Sex, and Children. Now, take note that I did not say most important THINGS. Marriage and Children could fall under that, but not sex. Sex is not an important thing.

Let's delineate our considerations.

1. Marriage.
NEVER, repeat, NEVER, marry someone because you're in love with them. Being in-love is no more than being infatuated. Don't argue with me. You're still wrong. I don't care. You're wrong. You know why? Because millions of people fall IN and OUT of love, every day. Being in-love is fun, but ultimately invalid. Is it okay to be in love? Sure!! But not at the cost of your judgment.
Marrying the right person is a combination of two basic things. A-It's RIGHT. B-You love them.

QUICK NOTE: Love is NOT an emotion. Love is NOT a feeling.
Love is a COMMITMENT to the betterment of another with a dedication of the soul. It also requires action. "I love you" is a phrase quoted in how many broken homes? Love requires action, or it's not love. It's just ... hot air.

How do I know if marriage is right? Ask God. He's your ultimate source. Also keep in mind that knowing YOURSELF will help you know your mate. If you don't know who you are, you are NOT ready to get married. It takes knowing who you are, what you like, dislike, and what you will not put up with, that will help make your marriage smoother than otherwise.
And love requires action to your mate. It's getting up so they can sleep, it's helping them with work, it's NOT putting your problems on them when they're having a bad day. It's sucking up the tough times and pressing through. It's saying that you consider your mate more important than your pain, and you're going to show them in whatever way it will mean most to your mate.

2. Sex
You do NOT have sex with anyone you're not prepared to marry or have children with. That simple. Now, the Bible never says that you have to BE married before having sex. It DOES say, that if you have sex with a woman, you are to take her as your wife. What? But it was just for fun- yeah, tell that to the doctor when he hands you your positive STD exam.
Don't MATE with someone of the opposite sex if you are not prepared to bear children. That simple. Life should be simple. Simplicity is following a set of rules - right and wrong. They help you simplify your life. You CAN do this, you CAN'T do that. Everything else if fair game.

3. Children
They're not your friends or best buddies. They're not pieces of furniture. They are YOUR OFFSPRING, and it is your RESPONSIBILITY to raise them. You know what that word means? Oh, that's right. We stopped using that word shortly after WWII. A people sick of the depression and of war, we gave up values we thought caused these things to happen.
Without responsibility, this country will fall faster than any other great nation before us. If you doubt that, you are one of those who've forgotten the true meaning of responsibility.

Responsibility is not an adult thing to do. It's life, and there's no other way to live it.

Do not make your children into your friends. Your wife, or you, did not spend nine months in hell just so you could have a best buddy. They are a gift and a charge from God. You are to raise them in your beliefs, and hopefully in values better than you yourself have practices. Teach them to REMEMBER the past, so they won't repeat its mistakes in the future.

Mankind's greatest flaw is our inability to remember our past. When God saves us, we go right back to the sin he saved us from. Why? Because we never remember the sin! If ONLY we could remember!

Marriage, Sex, Children.

One last point.

The EASIEST way to simply your life, is to live your life in a way that you would have no shame whatsoever in telling your child what you do, on a daily basis.
If you would not want your child to know how many men, or women, you sleep with, or how much alcohol you can down before passing out, or how you cheat on your taxes, don't do it now. Living it up is irresponsible-

Oh, wait. That's right. No one knows what that means anymore.

Johnathan Cross

When Husbands Fail

When Husbands Fail.

Men who walk away from their marriages because they FEEL differently are no better than weak women. I applaud women who, through emotional turmoil, choose a path of thought and consideration within the chaos of emotions. Men who do so are worthless men who ought to be strung up by their ankles and flogged.

Responsibility is not an adult thing to do, it's life, and there is no other way to live it. If you walk out on responsibility, you walk out on being a man, at any age. You walk out on a commitment to God, the Holy One of Israel. You walk out on my respect and the respect of anyone who's worth a damn.

"I met someone online" is no FUCKING way to end your marriage, you worthless pieces of shit. You met someone online? You didn't meet someone online. You're committing ADULTERY in your head with someone you're just as likely to walk away from when your feelings CHANGE again.

BE a FUCKING MAN. Stop following your emotions. Any person, male or female, who marries someone because they fell in love with them is as blind and irresponsible as a drunk cheerleader at a frat house. You don't marry people because you're in love, you marry them because you LOVE them. Being "in love" and LOVING someone are two different things.

And if you married someone and are no longer "in-love" with them, TOUGH FUCKING SHIT. Learn to love them, honestly love them.

Love is not a feeling, it's a commitment to the betterment of another (NOT YOURSELF) with the dedication of the soul.

If you can't learn to love the woman you MARRIED, you will not succeed with another. Marriage is not a "thing to do," it's a permanent lifestyle you've promised to follow before GOD and man, to the end of your life, through better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health. Marriage is not supposed to be a joyride, it's a testament from you to God and you're prepared to be his BRIDE. That's why we're here in the first place!!!

Love requires a sacrifice you're obviously too selfish to give. Love requires you to give of yourself to one you pledged the REST OF YOUR LIFE!!!!

*breathing deeply*

I hear things, of people, of men, who walk away. I don't pity you you sons of bitches. You make me sick. If she cheated on you, threatened your children, or did something actively harmful to you or the family, I can see, then, the problem. If not, you are weak, and worthless. You are wrapped in your own good-feeling addiction and will amount to nothing in the eyes of anyone who's worth standing before.

"But, it's over. / I'm not in love with her anymore. / There's someone else. / It's too hard."
You're absolutely, fucking out of your mind. You PROMISED. You're a liar, a cheat, an adulterer, a child with a penis, a boy with hair on his chest. You ... there aren't enough words to describe men like you.

I hate you. God loves you, but you make him weep. You twist the greatest gift he ever gave us because of your fucking wankers!

Men don't have to be perfect, but you should damn well be ready to fight to your last breath to live up to your word. And if you can't, you ARE worthless.

I'm ending this now because there's nothing left to say.

JCross