Marriage, Sex, and Children
The three most important considerations in life, other than God, are Marriage, Sex, and Children. Now, take note that I did not say most important THINGS. Marriage and Children could fall under that, but not sex. Sex is not an important thing.
Let's delineate our considerations.
1. Marriage.
NEVER, repeat, NEVER, marry someone because you're in love with them. Being in-love is no more than being infatuated. Don't argue with me. You're still wrong. I don't care. You're wrong. You know why? Because millions of people fall IN and OUT of love, every day. Being in-love is fun, but ultimately invalid. Is it okay to be in love? Sure!! But not at the cost of your judgment.
Marrying the right person is a combination of two basic things. A-It's RIGHT. B-You love them.
QUICK NOTE: Love is NOT an emotion. Love is NOT a feeling.
Love is a COMMITMENT to the betterment of another with a dedication of the soul. It also requires action. "I love you" is a phrase quoted in how many broken homes? Love requires action, or it's not love. It's just ... hot air.
How do I know if marriage is right? Ask God. He's your ultimate source. Also keep in mind that knowing YOURSELF will help you know your mate. If you don't know who you are, you are NOT ready to get married. It takes knowing who you are, what you like, dislike, and what you will not put up with, that will help make your marriage smoother than otherwise.
And love requires action to your mate. It's getting up so they can sleep, it's helping them with work, it's NOT putting your problems on them when they're having a bad day. It's sucking up the tough times and pressing through. It's saying that you consider your mate more important than your pain, and you're going to show them in whatever way it will mean most to your mate.
2. Sex
You do NOT have sex with anyone you're not prepared to marry or have children with. That simple. Now, the Bible never says that you have to BE married before having sex. It DOES say, that if you have sex with a woman, you are to take her as your wife. What? But it was just for fun- yeah, tell that to the doctor when he hands you your positive STD exam.
Don't MATE with someone of the opposite sex if you are not prepared to bear children. That simple. Life should be simple. Simplicity is following a set of rules - right and wrong. They help you simplify your life. You CAN do this, you CAN'T do that. Everything else if fair game.
3. Children
They're not your friends or best buddies. They're not pieces of furniture. They are YOUR OFFSPRING, and it is your RESPONSIBILITY to raise them. You know what that word means? Oh, that's right. We stopped using that word shortly after WWII. A people sick of the depression and of war, we gave up values we thought caused these things to happen.
Without responsibility, this country will fall faster than any other great nation before us. If you doubt that, you are one of those who've forgotten the true meaning of responsibility.
Responsibility is not an adult thing to do. It's life, and there's no other way to live it.
Do not make your children into your friends. Your wife, or you, did not spend nine months in hell just so you could have a best buddy. They are a gift and a charge from God. You are to raise them in your beliefs, and hopefully in values better than you yourself have practices. Teach them to REMEMBER the past, so they won't repeat its mistakes in the future.
Mankind's greatest flaw is our inability to remember our past. When God saves us, we go right back to the sin he saved us from. Why? Because we never remember the sin! If ONLY we could remember!
Marriage, Sex, Children.
One last point.
The EASIEST way to simply your life, is to live your life in a way that you would have no shame whatsoever in telling your child what you do, on a daily basis.
If you would not want your child to know how many men, or women, you sleep with, or how much alcohol you can down before passing out, or how you cheat on your taxes, don't do it now. Living it up is irresponsible-
Oh, wait. That's right. No one knows what that means anymore.
Johnathan Cross
Let's delineate our considerations.
1. Marriage.
NEVER, repeat, NEVER, marry someone because you're in love with them. Being in-love is no more than being infatuated. Don't argue with me. You're still wrong. I don't care. You're wrong. You know why? Because millions of people fall IN and OUT of love, every day. Being in-love is fun, but ultimately invalid. Is it okay to be in love? Sure!! But not at the cost of your judgment.
Marrying the right person is a combination of two basic things. A-It's RIGHT. B-You love them.
QUICK NOTE: Love is NOT an emotion. Love is NOT a feeling.
Love is a COMMITMENT to the betterment of another with a dedication of the soul. It also requires action. "I love you" is a phrase quoted in how many broken homes? Love requires action, or it's not love. It's just ... hot air.
How do I know if marriage is right? Ask God. He's your ultimate source. Also keep in mind that knowing YOURSELF will help you know your mate. If you don't know who you are, you are NOT ready to get married. It takes knowing who you are, what you like, dislike, and what you will not put up with, that will help make your marriage smoother than otherwise.
And love requires action to your mate. It's getting up so they can sleep, it's helping them with work, it's NOT putting your problems on them when they're having a bad day. It's sucking up the tough times and pressing through. It's saying that you consider your mate more important than your pain, and you're going to show them in whatever way it will mean most to your mate.
2. Sex
You do NOT have sex with anyone you're not prepared to marry or have children with. That simple. Now, the Bible never says that you have to BE married before having sex. It DOES say, that if you have sex with a woman, you are to take her as your wife. What? But it was just for fun- yeah, tell that to the doctor when he hands you your positive STD exam.
Don't MATE with someone of the opposite sex if you are not prepared to bear children. That simple. Life should be simple. Simplicity is following a set of rules - right and wrong. They help you simplify your life. You CAN do this, you CAN'T do that. Everything else if fair game.
3. Children
They're not your friends or best buddies. They're not pieces of furniture. They are YOUR OFFSPRING, and it is your RESPONSIBILITY to raise them. You know what that word means? Oh, that's right. We stopped using that word shortly after WWII. A people sick of the depression and of war, we gave up values we thought caused these things to happen.
Without responsibility, this country will fall faster than any other great nation before us. If you doubt that, you are one of those who've forgotten the true meaning of responsibility.
Responsibility is not an adult thing to do. It's life, and there's no other way to live it.
Do not make your children into your friends. Your wife, or you, did not spend nine months in hell just so you could have a best buddy. They are a gift and a charge from God. You are to raise them in your beliefs, and hopefully in values better than you yourself have practices. Teach them to REMEMBER the past, so they won't repeat its mistakes in the future.
Mankind's greatest flaw is our inability to remember our past. When God saves us, we go right back to the sin he saved us from. Why? Because we never remember the sin! If ONLY we could remember!
Marriage, Sex, Children.
One last point.
The EASIEST way to simply your life, is to live your life in a way that you would have no shame whatsoever in telling your child what you do, on a daily basis.
If you would not want your child to know how many men, or women, you sleep with, or how much alcohol you can down before passing out, or how you cheat on your taxes, don't do it now. Living it up is irresponsible-
Oh, wait. That's right. No one knows what that means anymore.
Johnathan Cross
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