The Nature of Love
"The love we seek is the love long lost, whether deep within or thin without, we all seek that which we do not have, in order to slate the thirst of a hungry soul." - Johnathan Cross
So... what is love? Many might say it's a vundafull feeleeng dahling... Others might say it's a deep connection. What would you say?
Before we go any further, I'd like to clarify one thing.
LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, IT'S A COMMITMENT. You CAN feel love, but it's not a feeling. My mom loves me, but I'm sure she hasn't always felt it, like when I shattered the rear windsheild to our only car, or when I dropped my little brother on his head. She loved me, but I'm sure she wasn't feeling it at the time.
Love is a commitment. What does that mean? There are many different types of this commitment, so let's explore a few, and clarify the rest.
Being "In Love," is a Gender Commitment.
This is one step above infatuation, which is one step above lust. A Gender Commitment is the simple connection between a male member of a species, and a female member of a species. This is a bit more primal, but beyond lust. This is more of a "mate" situation, but it's not Marriage. Let's repeat that, it is not Marriage. Well, why not? Think of it this way, however the human male chooses his mate in the primal sense, he's going for what feels best. Marriage is not always about what feels best, but a dedication to a serious commitment, one we'll mention here in a moment. Husbands and Wives fall out of love on a frequent basis, and they can fall back in love as well, but this commitment is not permanent, and should not be relied upon to make decisions of any kind. It is too temporary and easy to break.
Simple love is a Family Commitment.
This type of commitment is not exclusive to members of your own blood-line. This commitment reaches to very close friends as well. They often say family is not who bore you but who raised you. This is true. I never knew my bio-father, but as far as I'm concerned, he was a donor and nothing more. The greatest father I could ever have known lives in Heaven, and calls me son. He has taught me more life lessons in living, how to be a man, how to treat a woman, and how to live my life better than any man here on the rock ever could. My best friends are my brothers and sisters, and I love my family, so I have a Family Commitment to them, and always will.
Love for things, whether ideal or physical, is an Affinity Commitment.
I love Mustangs, I love veal parmesean, I love Spongebob. Now, I personnally Like these things, but I don't have it to the extent of an Affinity Commitment. An Affinity Commitment would be a die-hard fan of the Brooklyn Dodgers, or the Boston Red Socks, or the Ford motor company (if you live down south). I love the South. That, I could say is a deep Affinity Commitment for myself, but I wouldn't die for it. I'd fight for it, but I wouldn't die for it.
Now, the deep love we all want to feel with another is a Soul Commitment.
A Soul Commitment is a dedication of your soul to the soul of another. This means that through thick and thin, better or worse, richer or poorer, etc etc, that you will always be committed to this person. You CAN have a Soul Commitment for a person and NOT want to be their mate. This would include the very, very deepest of friends, regardless of sex.
This commitment is total. This commitment lasts a lifetime, and demands a continual submission to the other's needs. This does not mean you're their servant, but this does mean you keep them the same or above yourself.
When both parties of a marriage, relationship, etc. continue to submit to each other, the marriage will always flourish. This is when the commitment, regardless of which, is kept in the forefront of your thoughts and attitudes. This keeps the other person in mind, and their best interests kept at heart. When both parties keep this on top, both parties win.
Love is an essential part of humanity. Humans needs connections to others. Each human soul is like a single flame. Without others, it will die out quickly and quietly. But when combined, it becomes a forest fire and burns brightly. The bigger the fire, the more fuel it will find.
There are more detailed envisionings of love and commitment, but these are the largest ones I can name. Just keep in mind, Love is NOT a feeling, it's a commitment. If we let our emotions rule us we would all be dead, but love goes beyond your feelings. You love your wife, and will remember to do that which she requested of you over and over again because you love her, not because you feel like it. Wives will remember to obey their husbands, not out of how they feel but because of their commitment. Such is the nature of true love. And THAT, is for another day.
So... what is love? Many might say it's a vundafull feeleeng dahling... Others might say it's a deep connection. What would you say?
Before we go any further, I'd like to clarify one thing.
LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, IT'S A COMMITMENT. You CAN feel love, but it's not a feeling. My mom loves me, but I'm sure she hasn't always felt it, like when I shattered the rear windsheild to our only car, or when I dropped my little brother on his head. She loved me, but I'm sure she wasn't feeling it at the time.
Love is a commitment. What does that mean? There are many different types of this commitment, so let's explore a few, and clarify the rest.
Being "In Love," is a Gender Commitment.
This is one step above infatuation, which is one step above lust. A Gender Commitment is the simple connection between a male member of a species, and a female member of a species. This is a bit more primal, but beyond lust. This is more of a "mate" situation, but it's not Marriage. Let's repeat that, it is not Marriage. Well, why not? Think of it this way, however the human male chooses his mate in the primal sense, he's going for what feels best. Marriage is not always about what feels best, but a dedication to a serious commitment, one we'll mention here in a moment. Husbands and Wives fall out of love on a frequent basis, and they can fall back in love as well, but this commitment is not permanent, and should not be relied upon to make decisions of any kind. It is too temporary and easy to break.
Simple love is a Family Commitment.
This type of commitment is not exclusive to members of your own blood-line. This commitment reaches to very close friends as well. They often say family is not who bore you but who raised you. This is true. I never knew my bio-father, but as far as I'm concerned, he was a donor and nothing more. The greatest father I could ever have known lives in Heaven, and calls me son. He has taught me more life lessons in living, how to be a man, how to treat a woman, and how to live my life better than any man here on the rock ever could. My best friends are my brothers and sisters, and I love my family, so I have a Family Commitment to them, and always will.
Love for things, whether ideal or physical, is an Affinity Commitment.
I love Mustangs, I love veal parmesean, I love Spongebob. Now, I personnally Like these things, but I don't have it to the extent of an Affinity Commitment. An Affinity Commitment would be a die-hard fan of the Brooklyn Dodgers, or the Boston Red Socks, or the Ford motor company (if you live down south). I love the South. That, I could say is a deep Affinity Commitment for myself, but I wouldn't die for it. I'd fight for it, but I wouldn't die for it.
Now, the deep love we all want to feel with another is a Soul Commitment.
A Soul Commitment is a dedication of your soul to the soul of another. This means that through thick and thin, better or worse, richer or poorer, etc etc, that you will always be committed to this person. You CAN have a Soul Commitment for a person and NOT want to be their mate. This would include the very, very deepest of friends, regardless of sex.
This commitment is total. This commitment lasts a lifetime, and demands a continual submission to the other's needs. This does not mean you're their servant, but this does mean you keep them the same or above yourself.
When both parties of a marriage, relationship, etc. continue to submit to each other, the marriage will always flourish. This is when the commitment, regardless of which, is kept in the forefront of your thoughts and attitudes. This keeps the other person in mind, and their best interests kept at heart. When both parties keep this on top, both parties win.
Love is an essential part of humanity. Humans needs connections to others. Each human soul is like a single flame. Without others, it will die out quickly and quietly. But when combined, it becomes a forest fire and burns brightly. The bigger the fire, the more fuel it will find.
There are more detailed envisionings of love and commitment, but these are the largest ones I can name. Just keep in mind, Love is NOT a feeling, it's a commitment. If we let our emotions rule us we would all be dead, but love goes beyond your feelings. You love your wife, and will remember to do that which she requested of you over and over again because you love her, not because you feel like it. Wives will remember to obey their husbands, not out of how they feel but because of their commitment. Such is the nature of true love. And THAT, is for another day.
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