The Marriage of Mind and Heart
Your body and spirit are built like a traditional family structure.
Your mind is the husband, your heart is the wife. Now, how is that supposed to work? I've never seen either have sex nor have children. ;) LOL Well, of course not dummy, neither of those two qualities make a marriage bad or good, they are simply accoutrements to the basic way a marriage is built.
How is that, you may ask?
In the traditional family structure, the husband is the head of the family. A wife is to be submissive to her husband. Now, having said this, let's clarify a few things.
The fact that the husband is the head of the family and final authority does not make him a blind tyrant. He has a major resonsibility to his wife to listen to her, and pay serious attention to her needs and desires. A wife is to submit to her husband, but not be a mind-numbed servant.
Here's a military visualization for you: You and your wife are both Captains in your military, but you joined before she did. Now, you have final word and the responsibility to go with it, but you would be a fool to make your decisions without consulting her; her who has different training and is far more specialized in many areas you are NOT.
So, having the final word does not mean that the husband has a greater poition than the wife, it means he has serious responsibility to take care of the wife.
So, back to my original point (Now that I've explained the basic premise of said marriage).
The mind is the husband. He must listen to the heart, but he must not be the lesser, he must be the greater. To let your heart lead your way through life, you are asking for more heart-break and dissapointment than necessary. That is not to say that you should live a cold, heartless life, but unless your head is the final authority on things, you will fall in love with many people, and find the wrong person every time.
Listen to the heart, for the heart can see things the mind cannot, such as the heart of another person. Nothing can see the nature of a person's heart better than the heart of another. So as a woman knows a woman, you should trust your heart when it comes to reading other's hearts.
However (there always is a "However"), if your heart tells you that this man/woman that you're interested in has a good heart and a desire to be good, but through your head (senses) you can easily see that this person has a problem with alcohol, drugs, sleeping around, commitment, a whole host of other things, which do you think you should listen to?
So there is no definitive way I should tell you to go. Your head will see things that your heart does not, and your heart will see things your head does not. So your decisions must be weighed properly between the two, and when one has the greater case, follow it.
AMENDMENT: (11 Apr 07)
I'd like to add one note here. While I have described the traditional, and efficient, family structure, understand that the bible does say that in God's eyes both man and woman are equal, and that both must "submit to one another." If you marry a woman and you feel God carrying your relationship with her in ways different than what I described, by all means. I'm not trying to defame women or raise men. I'm just displaying God's base plan as outlined in the Book. Paul says that something wrong for one man may not be wrong for another. Epso facto, what is right for one may not be right for another.
But in the end, regardless of how you choose to live your marriage, the husband is ultimately held responsible for how well the family performs, children are raised. So remember that as you choose your lifestyle. Either way, God will always love you.
He always has.
Your mind is the husband, your heart is the wife. Now, how is that supposed to work? I've never seen either have sex nor have children. ;) LOL Well, of course not dummy, neither of those two qualities make a marriage bad or good, they are simply accoutrements to the basic way a marriage is built.
How is that, you may ask?
In the traditional family structure, the husband is the head of the family. A wife is to be submissive to her husband. Now, having said this, let's clarify a few things.
The fact that the husband is the head of the family and final authority does not make him a blind tyrant. He has a major resonsibility to his wife to listen to her, and pay serious attention to her needs and desires. A wife is to submit to her husband, but not be a mind-numbed servant.
Here's a military visualization for you: You and your wife are both Captains in your military, but you joined before she did. Now, you have final word and the responsibility to go with it, but you would be a fool to make your decisions without consulting her; her who has different training and is far more specialized in many areas you are NOT.
So, having the final word does not mean that the husband has a greater poition than the wife, it means he has serious responsibility to take care of the wife.
So, back to my original point (Now that I've explained the basic premise of said marriage).
The mind is the husband. He must listen to the heart, but he must not be the lesser, he must be the greater. To let your heart lead your way through life, you are asking for more heart-break and dissapointment than necessary. That is not to say that you should live a cold, heartless life, but unless your head is the final authority on things, you will fall in love with many people, and find the wrong person every time.
Listen to the heart, for the heart can see things the mind cannot, such as the heart of another person. Nothing can see the nature of a person's heart better than the heart of another. So as a woman knows a woman, you should trust your heart when it comes to reading other's hearts.
However (there always is a "However"), if your heart tells you that this man/woman that you're interested in has a good heart and a desire to be good, but through your head (senses) you can easily see that this person has a problem with alcohol, drugs, sleeping around, commitment, a whole host of other things, which do you think you should listen to?
So there is no definitive way I should tell you to go. Your head will see things that your heart does not, and your heart will see things your head does not. So your decisions must be weighed properly between the two, and when one has the greater case, follow it.
AMENDMENT: (11 Apr 07)
I'd like to add one note here. While I have described the traditional, and efficient, family structure, understand that the bible does say that in God's eyes both man and woman are equal, and that both must "submit to one another." If you marry a woman and you feel God carrying your relationship with her in ways different than what I described, by all means. I'm not trying to defame women or raise men. I'm just displaying God's base plan as outlined in the Book. Paul says that something wrong for one man may not be wrong for another. Epso facto, what is right for one may not be right for another.
But in the end, regardless of how you choose to live your marriage, the husband is ultimately held responsible for how well the family performs, children are raised. So remember that as you choose your lifestyle. Either way, God will always love you.
He always has.
posted by Johnathan Cross at 11:11 AM
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